Saturday, April 30, 2016

Hot Topic Buys for Goths

So, Hot Topic gets a lot of flack from alternative types who complain about it not being the mall goth mecca that it used to be, and I've defended it before, but it's actually been a while since I've been in one (I never did get that summer job.)

Today I was at the mall with some friends and we stopped in the Hot Topic there. It was loud, crowded, and full of Harry Potter and Marvel Comics merchandise (and an awful lot of Little Mermaid stuff, is something new happening with that?)

Anyway, I actually came out with a few things! I got these cute batty hair bows (which were on sale for almost 50% off, score) and this coffin iron-on patch which I'm going to add to the DIY vest that I'm still planning out.

So when I got home, I decided to have a look at what other things I could find on their website that would suit some more Gothy people. Here's what I found!

So those are my picks! When was the last time you bought something from Hot Topic? Have you completely given up on it yet?

Wednesday, April 27, 2016

Goth Planner Facebook Group

Hey guys! After reading some comments on last week's post, I thought it would be a great idea to make a Facebook group for Gothy types to talk about paper planners. I'm open to whatever people want to talk about in the group but I imagine it will be a lot of #plannerproblems, showing off spreads, posting links to cool planner things you found, or what-have-you. If you're interested, the link is below:

Please feel free to join!

Saturday, April 23, 2016

Review: Evil Supply Co. Mr. Ghost Parcel - April

Words can't express how excited I am for my last Mr. Ghost Parcel from Evil Supply Co. If you're new to this blog, the Mr Ghost Parcel is a monthly subscription box from Evil Supply Co, who make wonderful papergoods with a spooky, villainous theme. I really do love getting these boxes monthly, they're such a joy. This month's theme is called Magic Gardens and, as a fledgling plant mom I was really excited to see what I could do with this month.

Here's a look at the whole parcel:

Here's the bag that it comes in, which is a nice, vibrant green. I now have a nice little collection of these bags and they're coming in handy for storing travel planner supplies (I used one for pencils and one for washi tape the last time my friends and I had a craft night, definitely recommend it.)

The first thing I pulled out were these stickers. Evil Supply Co. stickers are a lovely, sturdy vinyl and I love the roses, they're extremely versatile. The other two are bottle labels which say "Deadly Nightshade Oil", which I haven't found a use for yet (I don't have too many decorative bottles lying about. Maybe I should fix that.)

Next I pulled out the mini pocket notebooks and, guys. Guys. Guys. I can't help but screech over the Deadly Nightshade notebook. I love Evil Supply Co.'s more retro, cartoon-y styles but the elegance of this one is so my lane. I don't even know what I'm going to use this one for, I'm just going to hoard it until I find the absolute perfect purpose. Absolutely A+ on this one.

Next up are the notecards and envelopes. The envelopes are a lovely bright, acid green which are perfect for decorating with stickers and washi. The notecards are both very cute and I think a lot of people would love receiving them. 

Lastly, the art print and patch are also lovely! I think I might want to punch the print and put it in my new Filofax planner, but I won't do anything until I'm sure. The patch is very cute and would go great on the arm of a denim jacket or on a pair of decorated jeans. Very cute!

This will be my last Evil Supply Co. unboxing for a few months, I think. It's going to take me a little while to sort out where I am going to be living/working after graduation and I didn't want to fuss with the post. Still, the next Evil Supply Co. parcel theme is called Bad Luck for Sale. This sounds like a wonderful parcel and I'm sad to miss it, so subscribe while you can!

Tuesday, April 19, 2016

Alternative Decorative Planners: Assorted Spreads

Long time no planner post! For the past few months, since my last planner-related post, I've been keeping my planning mostly in Instagram rather than posting them here monthly. I might come back and do another planner related post here soon (the reason why is at the end of this post, stay tuned!) but for now I thought I would dump some of my favorite planner spreads from the last few months.

I started out the new year with this black and gold layout, made goth with some gorgeous black/gold foiled skull and spiderweb washi tape that I found on Etsy.

The next week I tried out some vibrant, acid greens and found that I absolutely loved them to pieces. This colorscheme is going to make a comeback for sure.

Next is the first of several black and red themes that I've come to love lately. In this spread I didn't want to use too many full boxes, so I played up lots of smaller stickers and washi tape to make a cute vampire themed look.

For Valentine's Day I went a bit softer and more feminine with this burlesque style spread in pink and brown. I loved this a lot just to look at, even if the week was fairly unproductive.

Next up was another red and black vampire themed week. This week was a mash of many different sticker kits all together (you can see the different styles of checklists that I had), so I'm kind of surprised it turned out as well as it did.

This week is another favorite that I wasn't expecting to like as much as I did. It's a Sally theme from Nightmare Before Christmas and it turned out bright and fun and I'm very fond of it. The yellow washi tape on Saturday and Sunday is a favorite of mine.

This week was galaxy themed and I'm pretty fond of how it looks, even if I had trouble writing on some of the stickers because of the the dark pattern.

This week was roughly circus themed and another black and red spread. I really liked it because I started to play with the layout of my spreads which is something I will probably do more of in the future...

Lastly, this week's spread is another black and red one with lots of different sticker kits. Near the bottom you can see that I've started a graduation count down sticker sheet, which should be fun for the rest of the month.

So, the reason I might make more planner posts in the future is that I will be switching planners after I graduate in May! I just don't think I need all of the space that this above planner, the Erin Condren Life Planner, offers, and I would like something that I can take with me on the go. 

The planner I bought is a black, personal-size Filofax (found on eBay for a steal, since brand new Filofaxes are steep.) 

Yes, I know it doesn't look small in comparison but that's because the binder is larger than the inserts. The inserts themselves will be roughly 3.7" x 6.7", in contrast to the Erin Condren whose pages are 7.25" x 9.25." It'll be nice to have a planner that I can slide into my purse for a change. 

Binder styles have a lot of different ways to decorate them. You can design and print out your own inserts, buy or make dividers out of whatever scrapbook paper you want, insert charms or decorative paper clips, and a whole host of other things. I'm especially excited for all the planner accessories which will come around during the Halloween season. 

I'm probably not going to make the switch until after graduation so I will be posting more pictures of my Erin Condren planner spreads on my Instagram @theeverydaygoth if you care to have a peek.

Have any of you started using a planner in the new year? 

Saturday, April 16, 2016

Gothic Sunglasses: Five Styles

For those of you who follow me on Twitter, you'll probably know that my account was hacked and that I spam-tweeted hundreds of people advertisements for fake Ray-Ban sunglasses. After changing my password and deleting all the tweets, I was left annoyed (I also lost a few followers, which is unfortunate but reasonable.) So, fuck it, I'm blogging about actual sunglasses that I would want to wear today.


Does anyone talk about vampire Goth anymore? I remember it a lot in the earlier 2000's but then we got boring and decided we didn't like wearing vampire fangs and gorgeous faux-medieval/victorian flowing dresses (outside of photoshoots, anyway). Shame on us, really.

Anyway, these sunglasses would do well for any sophisticated aristocratic / romantic / victorian / vampire goth aesthetic, especially for people who prefer a more masculine style. These are from Etsy.


Steampunk folk don't just have to wear goggles! They can also wear sunglasses. I'm cheating here, of course, because these glasses have a google-like vibe to them (but slightly less likely to make your face super sweaty. Which I think we can all agree is a good thing.)

I love the gold touches on these and I think they would fit a lot of Steampunk / Dieselpunk / vintage kind of vibes. And I think by now I've blathered on enough about how much I like gold, especially in more Gothy styles. These are from eBay.


Gothabilly (or Rockabilly, or 50's Pin-Up, or whatever you want to call it) has, in my opinion, really the best sunglasses. Cateyes are absolutely iconic. They're great for my face shape, so I might be biased, but I love a vintage looking cat-eye, from the subtle to the ridiculous. These ones are from Sunglasses Warehouse.


Yeah, I'm letting the Nu-Goths in on this action. I actually really like the circle frame aesthetic that's so common among Nu-Goths. They add a little bit of a modern flair to Goth outfits and I've seen them a lot on Instagram and other fashion sites. I don't know that it would work for my round, heart-shaped face, but they're cute on other people. These frames are from Eye Buy Direct.

Cutesy Goth

These sunglasses give me a lot of nostalgia for when Lolita was really going strong in Goth fashion and so was decoden. If you're not an old veteran of that particular Kawaii DIY phenomenon, Lovelyish has a great post with pretty pictures. Basically, for a while, people covering their phones, laptops, mirrors, and pretty much any flat surface with gems and cabochens was all over alternative fashion forums. I think we could bring this back. These ones are from Etsy.

What kinds of sunglasses are you all carrying around as the sun gets brighter and the weather gets warmer?

Wednesday, April 13, 2016

Etsy Spotlight: The Little Stitcher Shop

[This is not a sponsored post. It's just cool.]

While prowling around on Pinterest I stumbled onto this Etsy shop, The Little Stitcher Shop, which makes digital cross stitching patterns, some of which are absolutely Goth appropriate! I personally don't cross stitch, but it's something I've looked into (I like to do things with my hands while watching movies or listening to podcasts and etc., and it would be nice to have something constructive to do.) Here are some of my favorite patterns!

The Witch's Home

The Banshee's Cry 

Check here to see all the rest of the patterns from this shop!

Do any of you all cross stitch? If so, where do you get your patterns?

Saturday, April 2, 2016

Reader Question Double Feature: Family Who Don't "Get it"

Today's post comes from two wonderful readers who are both dealing with family members who don't understand Goth. I'm hoping that this post will answer both of their questions and make sure that they can get more advice in the comments if needed. 

The first is from Azotsuru:

I'm 13, and I've recently been very interested in the Gothic subculture. I have a lot of questions on how to go about this without freaking out my parents(mostly my mom). But firstly, I'm African(and Christian), and my mom is kind of restricting.She doesn't wear make up, so i can't were it(even when I'm a lot older) and other things like that. I'm also worried that they may think I've turned into some Satan worshiper or something, I don't think they even know that goth is a thing. They may not understand,so I don't think I can tell them. What do I do?  -Anonymous

In my opinion, one of the best ways to be a Goth without making your parents freak out is not to play it up as a big deal. If you announce to your parents "I'm a Goth," they might immediately start to bring up those stereotypes that you mentioned. So, don't even bring up the word Goth. You can probably integrate wearing more black into your wardrobe, or listening to Goth music, or watching Gothy movies without causing a fuss. Some elements of Gothy style aren't even that outlandish, maybe a necklace shaped like an antique key or a black tiered skirt would work here. 

I know it is frustrating to have limits on how you dress, but remember that being unable to wear gothy makeup or super elaborate outfits doesn't make you less of a Goth. Many of us tone down our outfits for work or school or to be around family, you aren't alone in that. Just appreciating the subculture and enjoying the things other than clothing is perfectly fine. Who knows, maybe her mind will change as you get older, or when you leave home. 

I hope this helps!

The second letter is from ABG: 

My problems lie not with my parents. They in fact lie with my Grandmother on my Mothers' side. I have always been a Christian. My Grandmother apparently thinks that, because I'm a gothy type, that I am not Christian. (Stereotype much?) She constantly questions me on my religion every time she sees an opening. I continue to explain that 'Yes I'm still Christian' and 'No I'm not in an occult' and that 'Calm down. I'm an asthmatic remember? I don't smoke'. A typical opening would be 'So I saw this really adorable (fill in something totally innocent- such as a book -that is related to ghosts/various other things) and I like it.' 'Well Adilie, you know that ghosts aren't real right?' and she proceedes to talk to me about how 'God loves you so much.' Anywho- my question is: How do I explain goth to her? I've showed her videos by Jillian Venters (The Lady of Manners over at Gothic Charm School) that explain it, but she gets distracted by the fact the 'room looks weird' and basically brushes off everything that Jillian says.I remain, Mary Rose, your humble servant.ABG

In my opinion, dealing with grandparents and parents is much the same issue and, as above, it might be best not to add the name Goth (and all the stereotypes) to the mix. 

If you are yourself a Christian, it might be best to appeal to your grandmother using that. Something to the effect of "I am a Christian and do not think that being interested in Goth is a barrier between me and God. It's an interest that I have and I wish you would be supportive." If you go out of your way to demonstrate your faith to your grandmother (volunteer to go to church with her, ask her what her thoughts are on a particular bible story, etc.) she will be less likely to think that your other interests are at-odds with your Christianity.

You might also try to find some common ground with her about other things. Maybe she likes history, or other literature? Has she ever approved of something Gothy you've worn or liked (as small as a piece of jewelry, a particular outfit, something creative you've done)? Maybe bring that up. 

I don't know how your parents feel, but if your mother is supportive maybe you could ask her to talk to her mother. You could ask your mother "Hey mom, my grandmother is being very critical of my hobbies and I feel that it's really disruptive to our relationship. Could you tell her that I value our relationship and that I hope she knows I don't want my hobbies to get between us?"

I hope that helps!

Readers, how do you deal with family members who just don't "get it"?