My issue is thus: I am attending school for mortuary sciences and I do tend to dress very gothfully, lots of black, skull jewellery, and that kind of thing, but while I haven't had any trouble with goth elitist I have had issues with my fellow classmates. Their opinion seems to be that because I enjoy the darker side of things in my personal life I must not really be interested in my field and am doing it for "goth points." I try not to make a big deal of it to not give bullies the satisfaction of bothering me but it does bother me a lot that they don't take me seriously. Do you have any advice for what to do? Should I stop dressing how I wish?
Hi Marshall and thanks for writing in.
I'm sorry to hear that your classmates aren't being supportive or friendly because of your interest in the Gothy side of things. There's a very strange predicament in our society that you should find a career doing things you enjoy, but that if you choose your career based on your other interests it must not be "genuine." I had a similar comment made to me when I first started studying Art History and expressed an interest in Gothic architecture, but after making my own interest clear I didn't get the same continuing comments you seem to have gotten.
Honestly I think the only thing that will shut this kind of person down is to buckle down and do the best work you can and prove that your interest in your field is genuine and sincere, not just an effort to garner more Goth points. If you're going to be in classes with these people until your degree is finished, they will eventually see how committed you are and hopefully will leave you be. Stopping dressing how you like would probably only serve to prove their point that you were faking your interests, so I wouldn't recommend doing that.
Good luck to you!
Readers, have you ever dealt with this kind of elitism in your work before? How did you handle it?