Wednesday, February 29, 2012

I got tagged!

I had a post lined up for today, but since I got tagged I figured that I could save that post for a rainy day. Probably Saturday, after I've heard from Seattle University (which is giving me a lot of stress at the moment.) Hopefully you'll all find it interesting, but for now I got tagged by Sarah of The Walrus Room and have decided to fill out this tag meme. So, here we go!

How does it work?

Post the rules on your blog
Write 11 things about you
Answer it
Create 11 new questions for the future tagged ones
Put a link to the tagged blogs
Tag 11 people


11 Things About Me

  1. I have a passion for art museums. I could spend hours in them.
  2. I just finished Frankenstein by Mary Shelley and I absolutely adored it. I'll probably make a post about it sooner or later.
  3. I have a thing for cats. A big thing for cats.
  4. I have 200USD in the mail for me from a writing contest I placed in. I'm stoked, it's all going toward my England trip.
  5. If I'm not stopped, I'll eat cheese, crackers, and grapes for hours. Preferably with good conversation and wine.
  6. Since Mary isn't that common of a name for my age group, I'm always a bit startled to meet other ones. We're like an alien species.
  7. My trekkie of a mother refers to me as "Number 1." I'm her second child.
  8. I hate brushing my hair. I'd get an assistant to help if I could.
  9. The style I love almost as much is Victorian Goth is Classic Lolita. A lot of my Polyvore is made up of Classic Lolita, though I could never wear it myself.
  10. I used to be able to play flute, but now I just really want to learn to play the harp. Because of reasons.
  11. I really should redye my hair, it's been a few too many months. I need someone to motivate me.

Questions from Sarah of The Walrus Room!

1.What's your favourite pattern?
I love damask of all kinds. Even my Google Chrome background is the Marlies Dekkers theme. It just looks lovely.
2. What's your favourite band?
It goes in phases. Right now I'm really a fan of Depeche Mode, I've been listening to "Walking in my Shoes" on repeat for a few days.
3. Do you prefer skirts/dresses or pants/shorts?
Skirts and dresses! I don't wear pants or shorts at all, really. Except for right now, because it's laundry day at The Everyday Goth's house, and I can't wait to get out of them.
4. If you were to describe yourself in three words what would you choose?
Combative, fickle, creative.
5. What's your favourite smell?
Leather, lavender, violets, roses.
6. What are you wearing right now?
Camouflage shorts, a black tank top, a black t-shirt with a skull on the chest, and a pony-tail holder
7. What's your favourite toy?
Do books count as a toy?
8. Are you a heels or flats type of person?
I like a little bit of heel, but anything about two or three inches and I much prefer flats.
9. How many mirrors do you have in the room you are currently in?
There are three in my bedroom.
10. What's your favourite drink?
Rose black tea with a teaspoon of sugar and a splash of milk.
What's your favourite animal?
Cats! Most definitely cats.

Questions by The Everyday Goth
  1. What quote best describes your life outlook?
  2. What was the last book you read?
  3. What Goth band do you like the least?
  4. Do you have something you should be doing right now?
  5. Hugs. Yay/nay?
  6. Who is your closest friend?
  7. When did you start your blog?
  8. Where did your blog name come from?
  9. What is your passion?
  10. What do you need to buy right now?
  11. What's your favorite question for other people to ask you?
I tag:



I hope you all are having a lovely week and that my next post is suitably intriguing!

Saturday, February 25, 2012

The Goth Challenge: 16-20

First of all, I'd like to thank you all for following me! I was very pleased to see that my follower count had reached 100 and very flattered that you all are so interested. However, I'm afraid I must disappoint you for the moment. Because I am away from home for the weekend (visiting family in Virginia) with very limited internet access, there will not be a regular post today. Instead, here is the third installment of Juliet's Lace's Goth Challenge. After this one I only have two more to do. Are you guys sick of them or am I doing a good job of pacing them out? This time it's all about clothes, makeup and hair. Fun stuff, guys. Really fun stuff.

Untitled No. 25 by Lee Bontecou
Source: VMFA website.
(I saw this in person today. It was
beautiful.)

16. What's the most casual you've ever dressed?

Well, I guess my most casual would be my lounge wear: pajama pants and a t-shirt. However, I don't leave my house dressed so casually. When I go out the most casual think I'll wear is a t-shirt and a plain skirt with tennis shoes or flats. However, my plan is to slowly phase out those casual pieces and build up a stronger wardrobe of blouses and fancy skirts so that I can be fancy all of the time.

17. Your favourite Goth brand.
My favorite brand would have to be Fanplusfriend. While not actually a Goth-specific brand, it is my favorite place to get clothing since it does cater to Gothic Lolita, which is my preferred skirt silhouette. Most of my favorite pieces are from there and they offer a bunch of different fabric options for most things which can be great for mixing up your wardrobe. I'm hoping to make my next purchase one of their Jacquard Cotton Skirts in black.

Source: Fanplusfriend

18. Worst hair experience.

My actual worst hair experience was cutting someone else's hair when I was in second grade. With my own hair, I haven't had any really, really bad hair experiences. My hair is really long though, so it can be a pain to brush out. Brushing out knots that formed while I've been keeping it in buns for a week can be a bigLink pain. This, below, is the eventual goal. Imagine how fun that will be.

Source: Keratin.com

19. Share beauty advise and take a photo of your make up.

As far as tips go, the only ones I really have are: 1) Use a base and 2) clean your brushes. These are the most foolproof ways to get the best color pay off with the least product. You guys have seen how I do my makeup, so I'm just going to reuse this picture.


20. If you could dye your hair any colour what would it be?

I'm loving the blue-black that I'm using right now, actually, so I'd rather keep doing that than switch over to a new color. I'm paranoid about matching colors, so if I dyed colored streaks then I would feel bad about not matching my outfits to those streaks. It's the same with tattoos, too, so black is the best option for me. I'm still trying to find a good, reliable black though. I have to dye my hair very often because it grows so quickly so I'd rather find one that isn't such a drain on my wallet. What suggestions do you all have?

Source: Herbatint

So, readers, help me out. When I've exhausted the Goth Challenge, what kinds of stock posts should I find? More memes? Recorded vlogs? I really value your input.

Wednesday, February 22, 2012

A Simple Confidence Trick

One question that "seasoned" Goths are often asked by newbies is how to get the confidence to wear the clothes that we do and really be ourselves. Depending on who you ask, you can get results varying from "suck it up" to "just remember how fabulous you are!" I don't claim to be seasoned, but I have a simple confidence trick that I like to use that I, personally, find much more helpful than just "sucking it up."


Source: Weird Worm

The first thing I like to do is make a list of three people who have earned my respect enough and who have proved to be positive influences on me and my behavior. These people respect me in turn and don't judge me for being myself, though they feel free to offer their opinions when I am doing I probably shouldn't. For me, those people are:

  • My father
  • My boyfriend
  • My Journalism teacher

If you want to make your own list, I can give you a few prompts. Your best friend, your parent or guardian, your roommate, your sibling, your significant other, your penpal, your teacher, your coach, your Tumblr crush, etc. Now what do we do with these names? Whenever someone criticizes you for what you're wearing, what you're listening to, what you're reading, or what you are doing in any way, you think in your head about what those three people would day. For example:


  • Would my Journalism teacher like this outfit? Hell yeah, she'd think it's fabulous. So stuff off, person I don't even know. Your opinion means nothing to me.
  • Would my dad approve of this book? He approves that I read, period. And, really, I do too. So if someone has an issue with that, that's their issue. Not mine.
  • Would my boyfriend like this song? Knowing my own boyfriend's music tastes, probably, and his general attitude of "fuck everyone else" in regards to insignificant people's opinions would certainly not let someone telling me that my music is awful convince me.

In reality, some of us might have some trouble finding three people who you know in person that will really not judge you. If that's the case, then one might need to reach out to the Internet community and find those people there. However, the important thing is to limit the amount of people whose opinions you chose to value that highly. If you just say, for example, all of my readers, then you risk putting too much value in the opinions of people that you don't know very well. It can also lead to too many varied opinions, which can lead to you being unsure and right back where you started.

Pardon me if that was very High School Motivation Speaker of me, but I've found that it really works. And, honestly, if one thing is worth being sappy about, it is your self worth. If being a Goth is somehow a larger facet of your personality than it might be to others and a form of expressing yourself that you hold dear, then protecting it and your self esteem will prove to be worth it in the end.

Saturday, February 18, 2012

On "How to be Goth" guides

How many of you have read any summaries of books that you were "reading" for a class? Even if you don't use them yourself, it's common knowledge that they're a popular tool for students of all ages who can't or won't, for whatever reason, read the actual text. But can you use those kinds of guides for anything else? I wonder, could you use Cliffnotes for...Goth?

Source: Aoakley

They're everywhere. On eHow, Yahoo!answers, wikihow, and anywhere else that you can ask a question or provide a guide, someone has provided a primer for becoming a Goth. Not only that, but anywhere you can respond with some measure of anonymity and personal security, someone has voiced their displeasure over these guides. Well, more than just one someone. In fact, many Goths have a low opinion of people who write these guides and people who read and take them seriously. While one might have come into Goth without those guide's help, what makes the way that others become Goths bad? To answer, let's look at what someone who takes those guides seriously believes about Goths or what we should do:
  • "Goth is to pull away from what is accepted and explore what has yet to be accepted." [x]
  • "To finish off the Gothic feel don't act like your too interested in anything. Even if that thing is your favorite movie, actor, book, song, game, etc." [x]
  • "One of the standard rules of thumb: the darker the better. Wear all black clothing. Your face and skin tone should be pale, ghostly and really, really creepy."[x]
  • "Wear black fingerless gloves with any normal outfit. It will add a subtle goth touch. You can purchase then anywhere.; hot topic has like an unlimited supply, really cheap." [x]
  • "Today more than a few Goths follow a dark trend and give importance to the darker side of life and affectionately call it Doom and Gloom. They study Paganism, occult and witchcraft, though they refer it as craft." [x]
  • "Goth dudes can never be too tall or too thin. Keep yourself relatively skinny, just so you are close to seeing your ribcage. But don't go anorexic! By no means do goths like being able to see your heart pumping in your chest." [x]
  • "Try tight clothes (both girls and guys). Boys, do not try wearing tight clothes unless you like looking a bit more feminine." [x]
Source: Buzznet
"But Mary!" I hear you ask from across the broad, expansive internets, "Some of those are satirical! Why are you picking on those?" Gentle reader, I have come to a few conclusions in life, but the one that perhaps I hold the closest to my heart goes thus: Some people will never, ever, get sarcasm. That means that, while the above comment about the bodies of Goth dudes was intended as a joke, some person out there probably doesn't get it. While the author of those kinds of articles probably will laugh at these people who take it too seriously, they're not being much of a help to us.
The basic set up for these guides generally goes that they give a short, two-sentence primer on the history of Goth, then a lot of rambling about clothes, a small bit about "real Goth music" (which can range from stereotypical to just false) and then a short bit about how to change your personality to fit the subculture. If the writer is feeling adventurous then perhaps they'll mention what literature one should read. This is usually accompanied by a picture of a popular Goth model or a stock photo of a suitably brooding gentleman or lady, or (goodness help me,) a tutorial on Gothic makeup. And don't even get me started on Goth makeup tutorial videos.

Source: SiouxsieLaw
For many Goths, the subculture represents more than just its musical roots. The fashion, aesthetic, sense of humor, and tastes in literature associated with Goths can hold just as much appeal as the crooning of Robert Smith to some. Many Goths call Goth an important part of their personality. So, it's natural to say that some become offended when people try to give a guide on how to adopt someone's personality, the essence of their being. Even if, to you, Goth is just a musical movement that you love, it can be hard to say that seeing your favorite bands listed as a checklist. Still other people don't care.
The main complaint about this wave of guides that I've seen centers around the idea that it is an artificial personality and style that someone is trying on, not someone being themselves. I saw much the same complaints against My Summer as a Goth, in which "real Goths" make over a "normal girl" to be Gothic instead of letting her just be herself. However, even I defended it because it's natural for people to adopt fashions and tastes similar to their friends. However, something about the idea that an anonymous person on the internet telling people how to change something as personal as their music tastes, aesthetics, etc. rubs me the wrong way. It's not a mutual thing, there's no two-way learning. The result is an image of Goth that feels inorganic and hollow. It's soulless. Where's the fun in that?
And if, per chance, you are a non-Goth who has stumbled onto this blog post searching for the very types of articles that I show disapproval of, I say only this to you: be true to yourself. If you're a Goth, it'll show. You don't need a guide for that.

Wednesday, February 15, 2012

8 Valentine's Day Gift Ideas for Goths

Hello readers! Though I am a day late for the ultimate romantic holiday, I thought I'd make a list of eight gift ideas for Goths. Because we aren't known for our love of pink and hearts (though, of course, some of us do in fact love both of those,) many significant others or admirers of Goths might be at a loss of what to get for us for Valentine's day. Hopefully this comes in handy for next Valentine's day or for any anniversaries that happen in the mean time.



1. A card. This is your most basic form of Valentine's well-wishing and gift-giving. From sweet and romantic to satirical and silly, there are Valentine's cards for all types of romances and friendships. While you yourself could google "Gothic Valentine's Card", I would suggest branching out a bit and creating your own. It warms my heart to see personalized cards with inside jokes, snippets of favorite poetry, or doodles. Get thee to a craft store and get creative!
2. A hollow book. While hollow books are fiddly and time consuming to make, they do produce lovely and romantic results. Use their favorite book (you might have to ask a mutual friend) or one that has special meaning to the both of you. Of course, if your love routinely frowns upon the destruction of books, this might not be a fantastic idea, but if not then it's cheap and fun!
3. A poetry reading. This can go either two ways: either you read a poem (that you wrote or a classic love poem) or you take your love to a poetry reading at a club. Because we poets are angsty little creatures, you're more than likely going to stumble onto mostly anti-Valentine's ones or very sad readings. I say, avoid the angst (and the poets there probably won't welcome you, either, if you're going as a couple) and find a funny-themed one. Comedy clubs often have them, though I've seen fliers for ones at Goth clubs as well.
4. A personalized mix-CD. Okay, so we're not known for our love of pink and hearts, but there is something to be said for our love for songs of longing and adoration. Make a mix-CD featuring some of the classic Goth love songs ("Lovesong" by The Cure, "Love you to Death" by Type O Negative, "There is a Light that Never goes Out" by The Smiths, "Friday, I'm in Love" again by The Cure, and "Hello, I love you!" by Siouxsie and the Banshees come to mind.) and present it to your dearest. Bonus points if you add a track of you singing on it.
5. A cute, Goth-y stuffed animal. Disclaimer: not all Goths like and appreciate stuffed animals or plushies, but if your sweetie is fond then you have a lot of options. From plush zombies to bat-like ugly dolls, you have a lot of options.
6. Flowers. This is such a cliche I can't believe I'm writing it, but it holds true for many Goths that black flowers (especially, though not limited to, roses) are a cute gift. However, and this is a pet peeve I find with a lot of people that give flowers, don't present it wrapped in plastic! Take some time to wrap it with tissue paper, lace, cloth, etc. If your beloved is oh so spooky, they might appreciate some effort into making the flowers oh so spooky, such as gluing a plastic spider to it or staining white petals red with "blood." Make it as special as your Valentine is.
7. Anatomically heart-shaped anything. Many people, including Goths, have a kind of morbid fascination with the actual shape of the human heart and companies have started taking notice. There are anatomical heart necklaces, candies, Valentine's cards, and so much more. If a pun is involved, you get double points from me.
8. Molded chocolates. You can find heart-shaped chocolates just about anywhere, but if they come in bat or skull shapes then all the better! There are many tutorials online for molding chocolates, so get googling! I particularly love these ones, with walnut brains! (Hint: make sure your Valentine actually likes chocolate and is not allergic to it or any other ingredients you put in.)

Of course, you should never feel pressured to get your beloved something material for this holiday. If they're worth your time, they should be satisfied with your presence and well wishes. I hope you all found someone like this and that you had a very happy day!

Saturday, February 11, 2012

Musings: My Summer as a Goth

If you're an independent movie fan, a lover of Gothic Charm School, or a passionate devotee of kickstarters, chances are you have seen mention of project called "My Summer as a Goth." If you are none of these things or have somehow bypassed the mentions of this project, I'll try to hold back my excitable girlish squealing to give you the rundown. (Yes, squealing. I am that excited.)


Source: kzme

"My Summer as a Goth" began as a kickstarter project back in the fall of 2011 which asked for donations from interested people to begin the filming of a movie called "My Summer as a Goth." Promoted by Goth icons such as Jillian Venters, this movie reached its goal of 20,000USD and then some in start up money. Below you can see the video that accompanied the kickstarter project:



The movie is, according to the kickstarter project page, about "16 year-old Joey Javitts, sent to live with her grandparents for the summer. During the course of the summer, Joey falls for the neighborhood Goth boy, Victor. She is transformed by Victor and his merry gang of Goths from normal teenager to Goth goddess--falling in love, making friends and finding herself in the process."

According to the Gothic Charm School post about it, the co-producers and writer contacted Mrs. Venters to be the "go-to Goth" for fact checking about the subculture so that they didn't misrepresent it. This itself seemed to be to be a real step in the right direction. Many Goths struggle with the idea of being shown in the media in the wrong way (not necessarily the bad way, though that can be a part of it) and hopefully having a Goth on premises has helped with that.

However, the more recent news about the project is that they have just filmed a test scene. What scene did they chose to film? Joey's actual make over!


I can't lie, I'm very excited for this movie, and the makeover scene did nothing to quell my excitement. Due perhaps in part to the staff of Goths who seem to be helping out with the movie, the movie seems to have a really good grasp on what being Goth is like as a teenager. From one of the boys wearing a Bauhaus t-shirt to the girl's tongue in cheek humor about licking light-sockets, these seem entirely appropriate. The makeover includes some DIY elements which is also really indicative of some real understanding about the subculture, I.E. it's not just about going to Hot Topic and buying everything black in sight.

Another this is that the Goths don't seem to carry the negative stereotypes that many movies place on our shoulders and I'm very excited for that. If this movie can show just one person that they ought to be more like the grandfather (did anyone else cheer when he said "Yes, and she looks like she's finally having some fun"? I certainly did!) in their acceptance of younger Goths that they know, I'll be a very happy girl indeed.

If you're interested in hearing more updates about the movie, My Summer as a Goth has a blogspot here that I encourage you to follow, a Facebook page, and the official My Summer as a Goth website. Dear readers, how excited are you for this movie? Do you have any reservations? Any concerns? What are you hopeful for?

Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Must Have: A Journal

In my "Must Have: 25 Things a Goth Needs" post, I gave a list of things that, to me, would come in handy for the everyday spooky-type. Now, as I was reading over the list I came across one of the entries and decided that it merited its own post. What am I talking about? For number five on the list I claimed that Goths should carry a journal and I'd like to expand on that a bit more today.

Source: CafePress

Why Journal? There really is no answer for this question that works for everybody. You can journal for any reason and about anything. There's the traditional diary-style journaling where you discuss your day, there are daily sketch journals, there are journals for scraps of creative writing, there are journals for outfit planning, there are journals for healthy lifestyles (such as the Batfit 2012 journals), wine journals, there are journals for Pagans and Wiccans who want to record their practicing, there are catch-all journals for all of these ideas and more.

I began a catch-all journal during ninth grade because the writing classes I was taking required it and it has truly been a help as far as my life goes. Currently as a senior I've filled out over twenty journals. In them I record scraps of poetry and fiction, quotes that I hear and like, outfits, to-do lists, song lyrics, silly thoughts, and (more recently) blog post ideas and drafts. I really feel lost without at least one journal on me at all times (yes, I have more than one. I'll show you another one later in this post.)

What style of journal you get really depends on your personal tastes and what you plan on doing in it. Generally, you can get three types of paper in the journal: lined, unlined, and grid lines. Depending on what you plan on using this journal for, you can get what type works best for you (for example, getting a lined journal when you are going to be using it mostly for sketches might not be a good idea for some people.) Then there's how they clasp (generally magnets, strings, etc. if there is a clasp at all) and if they have any decorations on the pages. The front cover really matters to some people, while others thrive with one that they can customize on their own. I stand by what I said in the other post, though: Halloween is the best time to find scrapbook stickers and such to decorate journals, planners, etc. with. The way that the book is bound sometimes matters to people. For example, I can't stand spiral bound journals. They just don't work for me, but I know many that love them.

A journal itself shouldn't be too terribly hard to make, if you're feeling crafty. As a general rule, the outside cover should be of somewhat sturdy card stock, cardboard, or something else semi-thick and the inside paper can be whatever you want. If not, Etsy has some great ones (though their prices vary) and even Barnes & Noble has a few Goth appropriate journals.


There are a few benefits to journaling that I think worth mentioning. Firstly, and this is a big one for me, is for handwriting practice. For the holidays I was the lucky recipient of a set of calligraphy pens and I've been brushing up on my penmanship in hopes of being able to show it off to penpals in the near future. If you commit yourself to writing a bit more every day then your handwriting is bound to improve at least a little bit (particularly if you don't rush.) Another one, which perhaps lends itself best to people who use their journals as daily diaries, is to have a place to vent. I am a firm believer in the fact that keeping something pent up inside is the worst way to cope and though some are not able to have someone to vent to, a diary is always there for you. While some types of journal use don't appear to be very helpful for venting, more of them work than you would think. Even drawing can lend itself to venting, just look through the Fuck Yeah Moleskins tumblr and among the drawings you can see a lot of posts that express some kind of pent up emotion in the journal keeper.

A fashion journal seems kind of counteractive if you keep an outfit blog but, to me, it's almost cute in a way. If you have a Polaroid camera (oh, am I jealous if you do) you can take pictures of your outfits, paste them into the journal and on the next page write about the outfit: what the occasion was, what pieces are in it, where they came from, how much they were, if you liked the outfit, what you would do to change it, etc. Personally I would have fun with that because it's an easy way to show your fashion growth and I'm a bit of a frivolous person and just enjoy clothes a lot.

The blogging journal is another kind of journal that I find to be extremely inspirational. Just think: an evolving collection of blog post ideas, drafts of articles, inspiration, blogging goals, new theme ideas, etc. Perhaps a blogging journal could also include interview notes or clipped articles that need responding to, which could be spontaneous things.Of course, since I spend a lot of time on my computer I keep a file that has all of this for me, but I find that writing out the ideas takes longer and therefore gives me more time to reflect on whether or not I would really enjoy writing the post.

However, you can't rightly journal if you've left your journal at home or don't have a pen. I've found that buying a smaller journal that can fit into my purse is the only way that I use it regularly and keeping a ball point pen tucked into the spine really helps with the regular journaling. Not every kind of journal needs to be written in daily, I don't know anyone that keeps a daily wine journal, but it works for others.



But what about other types of journals? What you see above is my Q&A A Day journal. While daily diary entries can take up a lot of time, this type of journaling takes up hardly five minutes a day. The basic concept of the journal is that there are 365 questions with slots for you to answer each question five times (so you keep the journal for five years, presumably reading back to see how you've changed over time.) The questions have ranged thus far from "What's the oldest thing you're wearing today?" to "Today you lost ______." to "What art movement best describes you today?" Since each slot for answering the question only has four lines, there's no room for expounding at length and you can save time by only journaling for five minutes each day. Besides, you have a prompt, which I always find useful.

What about you? Do you keep a journal? What do you use it for?

Saturday, February 4, 2012

I'm going to London?

As one might have guessed by my age and posts, this semester is my final one of highschool. I'm experiencing a heavy load of senioritis and I'm trying to figure out what to do with my first summer before college.However, my main business at present is in thanks to my Grandmother who has decided that my graduation present will be going to London, England with her for five days and six nights.


I can hardly contain my excitement here. While I've been out of the country before (to the Bahamas when I was about eight and then to China when I was about twelve) this is the first time I'm old enough to be planning the trip myself. I'll be going with my Grandmother and we chose the trip to land from April 3rd to April 10th, which means that my trip falls mostly on my school's spring break. For now, however, most of our trip is unscripted so I have to pick places for us to go when we get there. For now, here's what I've come up with.

A production of Les Misérables

Source: Gaiaonline

My grandmother's only condition on my planning the trip was that we would go to see a performance in a theater in the West End. When we looked over what was being performed and she heard that I'd never seen a production of Les Mis, she decided immediately that we would have to go see it there. I'm looking forward to it, though we have yet to pick a date to go. It will more than likely be the Wednesday or Thursday that we're there, but we're not sure yet.

A visit to Camden

Camden Stables Market is known for its smaller alternative and vintage shops as well as holding a couple underground music venues. While I'm not quite old enough to get into any of the venues (I know, I'm sad too.) I can definitely enjoy the shops guilt-free. Unfortunately, my grandmother probably won't be as excited to here as I am, so I'm either going to be here only for a short time or I'm going to go without my Grandmother and explore on my own. Let's hope my sense of direction isn't too horrible.

Highgate Cemetery


Highgate cemetery is a cemetery in London divided into the more historic West side and the more contemporary East side. Since the West side is Victorian, I'm willing to suppress my own irritation that it's only available by guided tours. This is one of the places where I will be taking a lot of photographs. My grandmother actually loves cemeteries almost as much as I do so she's willing to walk with me through this one. If I had a list of my top cemeteries to visit in my lifetime, this would definitely be one, so I'm very interested in this.

St. Paul's Cathedral


If you have a passion for architecture, Disney's Mary Poppins, or religion, chances are you've heard of or seen pictures of St. Paul's Cathedral. Known for being a stunning example of English architecture designed by Sir Christopher Wren. Wren's own plaque in the crypt reads "SUBTUS CONDITUR HUIUS ECCLESIÆ ET VRBIS CONDITOR CHRISTOPHORUS WREN, QUI VIXIT ANNOS ULTRA NONAGINTA, NON SIBI SED BONO PUBLICO. LECTOR SI MONUMENTUM REQUIRIS CIRCUMSPICE Obijt XXV Feb: An°: MDCCXXIII Æt: XCI." which translates to "Here in its foundations lies the architect of this church and city, Christopher Wren, who lived beyond ninety years, not for his own profit but for the public good. Reader, if you seek his monument - look around you. Died 25 Feb. 1723, age 91." I'm rather enamored with the cathedral itself and have made plans for a tour (which comes with tea) there.

The London Dungeons


Source: Wikipedia

I must admit, this is one stop on the trip that is bound to be tourist-y and cheesy fun. The London Dungeons is, according to wikipedia, "is a popular London tourist attraction, which recreates various gory and macabre historical events in a grimly comedic 'gallows humour' style, attempting to make them appealing to younger audiences. It uses a mixture of live actors, special effects and rides." As I've discussed with my grandmother, this is another place I might have to venture without her. Hopefully I can hook a few London friends into humoring me by coming with me. Hopefully.

The Tower of London


Source: Wikipedia

The Tower of London is another place that's been on my Gothy bucketlist for a good long while. As a person who is absolutely enthralled by the life and times of Anne Boleyn, who was executed within on the tower green, I'm excited to see some of the more interesting pieces of history. Apparently the ravens there are worth a look, too, because if they ever left bad things would start to happen. I wonder if you're allowed to actually meet them or if you can just spot glimpses. Either way, really cool place, and I'm very interested to see what there is to see.

The Victoria and Albert Museum

Source: Kew

Happily enough, our hotel is quite close to the Victoria and Albert museum, so I'll be able to visit more than once if time permits. Their 19th century fashion exhibit in particular sounds like a fascinating place to visit and look around in (if they allow pictures, I'm not sure, that might be a good deal of my picture spam. If not, I'll find some stock photos of my favorite dresses for a future post.) One of my favorite exhibits at the Metropolitan museum in NYC is their one on historical costuming, so hopefully this will only enthrall me further.

Westminster Abbey

Source: Wikipedia

Another building I hope to visit during my stay in London is Westminster Abbey, a mostly Gothic cathedral home to various artifacts of religious life. However, what I'm most excited to see is the "Poets' Corner," where there are monuments to poets such as Chaucer and Shakespeare. Hopefully I'm allowed to take pictures there, but if not I think my inner poet will just writhe at the sight.

Are there any other places I should be visiting while I'm in London? Leave a comment in the box below if so!

Wednesday, February 1, 2012

I have this thing for rings



I will freely admit that I have a soft spot for rings. I often have issues finding earrings that I like, necklaces just aren't enough, and I can't wear bracelets without fidgeting with them throughout the day. I wear them so often that now my fingers often feel naked without some sort of metal covering. Luckily, this month's theme fell right on my scheduled post day, so I got to participate in jabbering about my favorite jewelry.

Excuse my face, please. It was a long day.

I don't know if this is very visible, but while my camera is out of commission this is the best way I can show it. This ring was a silly, silly birthday present to myself that I got while at Otakon 2011. The ring itself is a cupcake with black body and white frosting, but in the frosting is pressed a miniature Jack Skellington (among various glitters and tin roses.) Is it ridiculous? Oh yes. Is it over the top? Definitely. Do I love it? Yes! And I'll be certain to wear it more in the future.

Here are some other rings, in no particular order, that I've fallen in love with.

Wait, I lied, there's an order! For this one, anyway. This is a ring called "Draco Blackheart" by Alchemy Gothic that I am in love with. Unfortunately, they've also discontinued it. Boo! So, now I'm on the hunt for this ring on eBay and other such shops so that hopefully it will one day be mine.

Sterling Silver Black Widow Spider Ring from Gem Avenue - 20USD is a more simple and affordable ring with classic styling. I'm big on black-on-silver rings and I love spider imagery, so this is perfect.



Creature claws set of 4 from GhostLove - 90USD is a beautiful collection of slightly intimidating rings. I feel like this would be mostly impractical, but great for a photo shoot or the occasional club night. I'd just have to try very hard not to hit someone while dancing, yes?

This big raven skull ring from MRD74 on Etsy is 35USD of pure want. I like that it is not tiny, not simplified, not pasted onto a strange looking band, and that it really speaks truly for lovely Goth statement rings without being silly (like mine above.)


This ring is called the Fangs Ring from Necromance and is 82USD. For a sterling silver ring that's going to last you a long while, it's not actually quite so bad a price. I feel like a lot of rings of this type have very oddly shaped teeth, too many teeth (come on people, just look in your own mouths!), or are made of a weird metal that will turn my fingers green. This is a nice reprieve.