Wednesday, January 11, 2012

How Important is Living Near Other Goths to you?

Earlier this week I went off to go visit Smith College and Mt. Holyoke college in order to interview for my application. When I went there, I found myself reflecting on the fact that because these colleges were ninety minutes away from the city of Boston, I migha not be enjoying a cosmopolitan life during my college years. As I continued to think about it, I realized that my contact with other Goths might be extremely limited. And, I thought to myself, I don't really care.

My picture of a street sign in North Hampton, MA.

As you all are probably sick of hearing, I don't have Goth friends in the real world outside of my computer. Being the only Goth in your town can get lonely, can get frustrating, but I'm mostly used to it by now. I have my computer and I have friends that I have made bonds with on grounds other than our mutual spookiness. I don't mean to sound full of contempt of Goths who are friends with other Goths, I'd love a friendship like that, but I don't begrudge the friends that I have for not liking Bauhaus or Siouxsie. Still, I realized, I'm used to not being in the midst of other goths. Why should it concern me during college?

Perhaps because any move leaves people grappling for a sense of security and normalcy, but I don't seem to be the only person that wants to connect with their scene at their arrival. For all the new places, people, and experiences you're sure to meet, having a semi-familiar base to go off of would seem nice to some. I tend to think that the Goth scene, while it certainly varies from location to location, has the same roots not too far back to have been lost, tends to be more welcoming to new comers than some groups, though it depends on the people involved in the scene of course.

Of course, some Goths don't like to be involved with the Goth scene in their area. They might have had an experience with drama, they might not be interested in the club scene where they are most likely to find other Goths, they might just be private people. For whatever reason, it's enough to keep some Goths confined at home. They might not care about whether the place they are moving to has any Goths at all and there's nothing wrong with that. Tastes can mean the difference between a lot of things.

Goths and many other Alt-types have a special kind of bond. Because we often face opposition to our music and appearance, it's natural to want a kind of support network. From opening our own clubs to instituting the mutual "freak nod" when you see another spooky, we as Goths do a lot of networking to make that network of friends to fall back on. To find the community in the real world is almost a dream come true to small-town Goths whose only connection to the scene has been the internet where we are often showered with stories about the busier Goths spots.

What do you think about living near other Goths? Answer the poll below, I'm curious to see what you think?

  • I consider it very important, almost a necessity.
  • I think they would be nice to have, but not necessary.
  • I would rather not live near other Goths.
  • I have no preference.


  1. Interesting, and you make a good point. For a while, I sought out connections with other Goths in my community (which was scant, and I wasn't picky, ANY Goth would do), but those experiences I had I found to be lacking. I didn't feel connected as I look back, the interest I had in building that connection with someone else in the subculture was never quenched. Only here on blogger did I find like minded spirits...who just happened to be Goths too. Good post :)

    1. i know some goth people around but i would not call them friends. i have goth friends that i got to know on festivals, concerts or online and keep in touch via internet/phone and meet as often as we can on festivals and concerts.
      of course it would be nice to have more people to go to clubs with but actually i don't have enough time at the weekends anyways (working as nurse, nightshifts).
      and for having fun my friends dont have to be goth and i do really love my 'colorful' friends ^^ and spending time with them.

  2. Like many of you, I grew up in a smaller town.
    So finding other Goths, didn't happen to me till I got older.
    I've managed to track down a few in my town, and a few punks to hang out with.
    But most of the people I know, aren't goth by any means.
    It doesn't really matter to me if there is a scene or not, of course it's always nice to get a chance to meet people with similar interests.
    I mean, i'd be lying if me moving to Boston next week hasn't peaked my curiosity a bit.
    I'm interested in seeing what the scene is like, but again, i'm not really sure how often i'll seek it out.
    Besides we can become friends outside of the interweb! (which we discussed already, but still!)
    Majority of the Goths I know, i've met through the internet.

  3. I've actually never met another Goth, as far as I know. I might have walked past one in my big city but to be fair Goths don't have neon signs above their heads. It used to bother me but it doesn't anymore, I feel much more connected thanks to blogging.

  4. The main reason to want to live near other goths is it makes shopping a lot more pleasant... there will be more stores catering to the style if there's a community.

    Also I think there are certain kinds of areas where people who just coincidentally have these kinds of interests will flock. Like I am visiting Edinburgh Scotland right now, and I think I've never seen so many Gothic looking people in one place -- even at the old Goth Night in my local club. But this town, Edinburgh, is full of history, graveyards, ghost-sightings, not to mention is kind of the birthplace of Harry Potter, and the men were all wearing skirts already anyway. Perfect place for Goths, so there's plenty around here.