Wednesday, August 27, 2014

Back to Scotland!

This evening I'll be hopping on a plane to return to Scotland for a ten month study-abroad adventure, so goodbye colonial barns and dairy farms and hello medieval castles and woolly cows. Long time readers of this blog will note that I did something similar in 2012 for my first semester of college, but now I'm heading back for my junior year at the University of Glasgow. I expect this to be a pretty fun adventure, but it means that I'll be pretty absent around these parts. I do have posts queued every now and again, so it won't be totally desolate. Still, if you can't get enough of my charming personality and you really, really want to see pictures of Scotland you can follow me on my study abroad blog here.

I'll see you all around!

Wednesday, August 20, 2014

DIY Goth School Supplies

Is it starting to look like autumn where you guys are? Unfortunately here it's still bright and sunny, but that doesn't mean I don't have everything fall-related on the brain. Pumpkin flavored treats, nice warm jackets and, lest we forget the younger Goths, school. Now I'm in college now but because I fully embraced my Gothness at school I have fond memories of spooky school supplies, so I thought I'd make a post about how to make your school supplies fit your spooky lifestyle.

The inside cover of my planner


First things first, you're going to need the school supplies you want to Goth up. Now, everyone has a different budget and different needs for that kind of thing. Personally my necessities are: an accordion folder (really good for organizing older papers that you want to reference later), a planner, and one-subject college-ruled notebooks. 

Other things you might need: regular folders, calculator, binder, tape dispenser, stapler, pencil pouch, USB drive, etc. Look for Gothier colors and patterns. Blacks are very common (if your local store genders school supplies for some strange reason like my local target does, I find more dark colors in the boy's section) and damasks are pretty much always popular. 

Tip: If you want a pencil pouch but find the varieties lacking, look for makeup carrying cases which come in a lot more variety. You're sure to find something you like, especially in the autumn when dark motifs are most popular.

Then you'll get to actually Gothing them up. Now, luckily, the other thing that's happening around this time of year are craft stores stocking up huge quantities of Halloween supplies. So, get thee to a craft store (JoAnns, Michaels, Hobby Lobby, etc.) and go find some supplies. I usually find cool Halloween stickers and stamps in the scrap-booking section, and this year my planner has a cool The Raven themed stamp on the inside cover- cute!

Tip: If you have a planner that uses a ribbon bookmark you can usually detach it pretty easily and replace it with a more Goth-appropriate ribbon. I know that Michaels stocks wonderful skull ribbons which I showed in my Halloween haul two years ago but other places must surely stock them.

Also, if you can find Halloween decor you can use this for school supplies. Goblets, cups, or mugs that are Halloween themed make great ways to organizing pencils, pens, and other desk supplies. In addition you can use place setting holders to hold reminders on your desk.

Of course, you can also use sharpies or paints to decorate your school supplies if you're particularly artistic, but I'm not so I'll leave that to you all.

If you're a Corp Goth and you're in need of stationary take a look on websites like Zazzle which have lots of cool Goth-y paper supplies. Or you can visit my friends over at Evil Supply Co, of course. Their mailing supplies would make great ways to decorate your desk or notebooks. 

How do you decorate your school or office supplies to make them look spooky, or do you at all?



Saturday, August 16, 2014

Birthday Outfit Post

So, I guess my big news today is that I'm now twenty! Yes, I've made it through two decades of life relatively unscathed, and the rest of it seems pretty promising. While I don't have any plans for the day, I thought I'd dress up and post a picture of what I'm wearing today.


Necklace: Otakon
Skirt: Macy's
T-shirt: Forever21
Shrug, Belt: Torrid
Boots: Gift

So what are you all up to this weekend? 

Wednesday, August 13, 2014

Reader Question: A Non-Goth Roommate?

To The Every Day Goth 
 I am going to my very first year at university this fall and we just got our roommate assignments. My roommate is very much not gothic, how do I make sure we get along?

xkarey


I don't have much Goth-applicable advice for roommates because, to be honest, living with someone you've never met before is an issue that many, many people deal with over the course of their lives and it's stressful for almost everyone. I had a non-Goth roommate my first college year and we got along great, not once did my being a Goth become an issue. So, here's some general roommate advice:

I assume that your University has given you an e-mail or number contact with your roommate with, and that's a good place to start! Working out issues about what is permissible behavior and what you expect from one another before you get to the room will help make the first few weeks less awkward. Some things to discuss:

  • What time do you expect to go to sleep on school nights? What time do you wake up?
  • Are you a tidy person?  Does the idea of splitting up cleaning work appeal to you?
  • What are your thoughts on sharing things? Food, clothes, etc.?
  • How do you feel about locking doors? Every time you leave the room? Every time you leave the floor or dorm? Never?
  • Will you play music in the room without headphones? Is there a cut off time for this?
  • How will you handle guests in the room, during the day and over night?
  • How will you handle sex-guests, if applicable?
Some of these questions might sound weird to ask, but it's better to get it out of the way before it becomes an issue. 


Here are some other misc rules that I think might apply to Goths that are new to the whole roommate thing:
  • If your roommate asks about "the whole Goth thing," try not to be as snarky as you might be to someone on the street. If you're short with them, you have to deal with whatever hurt feelings and bad associations they now have with Goth up close. Just be polite, give them an explanation and answer their questions. 
  • If you have any art or decorations in your room that might generally be considered disturbing (blood, gore, skulls, etc.) then it would be courteous to offer to take them down if your roommate asks. Yes, artistic expression and all that, but the space is your roommate's too and they have a right to feel comfortable in it. 
  • If you somehow have a very conservative roommate who causes you some trouble because of your perceived deviant lifestyle, get in contact with the appropriate authority figures (RA, community advisor, etc.) right away.

But, the good thing about having a non-Goth roommate is that they probably won't borrow your clothes without asking. Silver linings, right?

So, readers, how have you coped with Goth roommates?

And, as always, send your reader mail and questions to my Contact Me page or e-mail me at theeverydaygoth@yahoo.com

Saturday, August 9, 2014

Pottery Barn 2014 Halloween Collection

Halloween season is in the air! After the back to school collections at most chain stores (at least in the US) we'll be expecting a big explosion of Halloween festivities, but even now I'ms starting to see hints of black and orange all over the web. Recently This is CorpGoth posted a couple wonderful Halloween items from major retailers and when I followed her link to Pottery Barn I found tons of great Halloween stuff that would fit a Goth-y aesthetic. So, here are some of the things I found that I absolutely loved:









Have you seen any Halloween decor in your neck of the woods? If so, do you plan on buying any for your year-round decor?

Saturday, August 2, 2014

9 More Goth Pinterest Boards To See

In August of last year I posted a list of 9 Pinterest Boards I had been loving lately. I still love using Pinterest to plan houses, outfits, etc. so I thought I'd post more boards that have caught my eye lately:



Trystan of This is CorpGoth on Blogspot has a wonderful Pinterest board of the same name devoted to CorpGoth fashion, primarily women's wear but with a few things for the corporate men among us. Often plus-size and budget friendly, and often featured on my personal Goth Fashion board.

Branching away from my minimalist CorpGoth decor is Insomniac's Attic's Little Gothic Cottage Mood Board which takes a much cozier approach with warm colors and lots of textiles. I looked at this board a lot while planning a more Medieval-inspired decor post, which will be up in a few weeks. Be sure to also check out the accompanying boards Little Gothic Cottage Plumbing, Hardware, lighting, and tile.

Offbeat Bride's Halloween Wedding Board is a great inspiration for those of us who love Halloween weddings (and those of us who love Offbeat Bride!) Tons of great ideas from real weddings, and also featured on my wedding board.



Victoria Thibeau's board Noir Vamp posts a lot of Haute Goth and dark clothing, more on the ""sophisticated"" end of Goth fashion, and has been a big help on my recent board Runway Goth. It's also really helpful if you want to see what trends might be trickling their way down from the autumn and winter collections of famous designers.

Elizabeth Hale's board Disney Home (Gothic) takes inspiration from Disney villains, especially Maleficent, and Disney's Haunted Mansion and transforms it into a wonderfully spooky interior aesthetic.

Vintage Halloween is a group board that posts all things spooky from years gone by. There are collectibles, stationary, and decor which celebrate that charming and quaint aesthetic that I'm pretty fond of, despite the pervasiveness of a sleeker, more modern aesthetic nowadays. (One of the major pinners, Donna Davies, has a lot of really excellent Halloween boards, actually, and I recommend you check them out.)




Gothic Architecture takes center stage on Jo Davie's board with really great pictures showing off my personal favorite architectural aesthetic. There's plenty of gothic revival and original medieval buildings, as well as architectural details found elsewhere.

Mourning Jewelry by Museum of Love and Mortality showcases wonderful pieces of vintage mourning jewels, mostly European but branching beyond the 19th Century, which I find most other boards focus mostly on. Definitely great if you love the history of death.

Looking for makeup inspiration for spooky types? Check out the Goth Makeup board by Goth Inspiration which has a whole host of pretty folk modeling wonderful makeup, as well as a few tutorials scattered throughout.

Do you all use Pinterest? What boards are you liking lately?

Wednesday, July 30, 2014

Reader Question: Can one stay a babybat?

Dear Mary Rose 
I just read your post on evolving from being a babybat, and I have a question.
Do I have to evolve into a fully fledged goth or can I just stay a babybat? I know that sounds like a silly question. The thing is I have always liked the goth subculture but I don't think I could ever become fully immersed in it. I don't particularly *love* most goth things, and I don't feel like the term goth could ever describe me properly. I have been influenced mainly by my metalhead friends so I like that sort of music, however when I read goth blogs and websites they mention bands that I'm not entirely interested in. And I don't want to be considered a metalhead for personal reasons I have with that subculture. I've also looked into emo and I definitely don't have the personality for it, it's also way too cutesy for me, though I might like few songs associated with it. I read up a lot about goths and I like the general idea of it, the darkness, mysterious, the clothes, expressing one's self, being considerate of others and accepting, being different and quirky and edgy, the supernatural and fantasy. I have a real appreciation for dark alternative subcultures. 
I guess the term babybat makes me feel like I can be in between 'normal' and goth with permission to mix it up with things from other subcultures. I like the idea of being semi-goth (kind of like how some people see Evanescence, goth but not goth. Evanescence is my favourite band so that might give you some idea of why would associate with babybat and not goth.) However, in the future I might discover some goth music that I like but that doesn't mean I will want to be a complete goth after that. 
Also I heard that you are a babybat as a teen only and that you become goth when you are 18/21, and I am 21 now. 
So I was wondering what your opinion is on me wanting to call myself a babybat forever (or untill I decide I no longer need the label)? 
From Tyla :)


Hello Tyla!

First, I'd like to challenge the idea that a babybat has to be of a particular age. Many of the questions that I get from older Goths that are new to the subculture seem to center around the idea that they are "too old" to be a babybat. I'm in the camp of thinking that a babybat is a person new to the subculture, and that it's association with younger people comes because A) many Goths join the subculture when they are young and B) the word "baby." So, yes, I believe it's okay to call yourself a babybat at any age.

But, I am confused by the idea that being a babybat is a step between normal and Goth. If your interests lie outside the Goth subculture, then identifying as a babybat isn't going to bridge that gap, so to speak. It's perfectly okay to like a subculture but not become a part of it (of my 11,000ish followers on Tumblr, I'd hazard that only about half of them are Goths.) As above, I mention that a babybat is new to the subculture, and that means that they are a part of the subculture, and it would follow that they like Goth things (music, aesthetic, literature, etc.) and are active in the community. Perhaps the solution for you would be not to identify as either Goth or babybat but to just hang around Goths and be a part of the community you seem to like.

As for how you identify, I promise the Goth cabal isn't going to come to you in the middle of the night and demand you call yourself Goth, especially when your interests seem much more varied and inspired by metal and alternative rock. Of course, I think it goes without saying that very few Goths become completely "immersed" in the subculture to the point that they don't like anything that is outside of it. Many of us have at least a soft spot for music outside of the traditional line-up, and if/when the time comes for you to decide that you want to identify as a Goth, you shouldn't feel that all of your interests must fall within the Goth category.

But, I would say, some of them must.

It also follows that without an interest in Goth music, many Goths will dismiss your interest in the subculture. Without a doubt, Goth music plays an important part in the Goth community's history and to ignore that in favor of other aspects of it, such as the fashion or literature, is enough to earn you a big "poseur" stamp from some Goths. Longtime readers will know that I've fallen out of favor with demanding that people do or like certain things in order to be a Goth, but I think it's wise to know that other Goths are fiercly protective of the subculture in that regard.

I hope that helps.

Readers, when did you feel that you "graduated" from being called a babybat into being a Goth?